There are times in life where you will find burdens weigh you down more than you can handle alone. In times like this, you need people to come and hold your hands up for you.
Trusted people who will encourage you walk with you until the battle is won, just as Aaron and Hur did for Moses.
People find themselves in trouble when they believe that either they can handle things themselves, or are concerned what people will think of them if they admit they need help. Leaders in particular are guilty of not letting others in when they need assistance or find themselves drowning in an issue.
When I have asked people, ‘Who are the safe people in your life,’ some people can tell me immediately who they are. However, for many , the answer is often; ‘Oh that is a tough one. I don’t have any’. Or they say; ‘I don’t know who I can share with’. How sad is that!
The reason that it is sad is two fold. The first reason is, the person with the issue feels that they are a failure if, ‘heaven forbid’ in my position as a leader, a manager, a mother, a person who is relied upon, has an issue. What will people think? If only they realize that to overcome, to grow, to combat the issue that is overwhelming them, sharing it with a trusted person or persons, is the wisest and most mature thing you can do. Leaving it to fester or swallow you up doesn’t help you or the people who rely on you.
The second reason is simply that they don’t know who they can trust to love them through the difficulty. Not judge them nor tell the world about it. ‘Who can I go to’?
You need your Aarons and Hurs.
In Exodus 17: 10-13 we read of the account of Moses. 10Joshua did as Moses told him, and fought against Amalek; and Moses, Aaron, and Hur went up to the top of the hill. 11So it came about when Moses held his hand up, that Israel prevailed, and when he let his hand down, Amalek prevailed. 12But Moses’ hands were heavy. Then they took a stone and put it under him, and he sat on it; and Aaron and Hur supported his hands, one on one side and one on the other. Thus his hands were steady until the sun set. 13So Joshua overwhelmed Amalek and his people with the edge of the sword.
Here is Moses. A leader. An influencer. Well known. Aaron and Hur held up Moses’ hands til the battle was won. They did not say to Moses, ‘Fancy needing to hold your hands up. You are a leader. What will people think of you’. No. They were Moses’ ‘safe people’. You need Aarons and Hurs in your life.
What do Aarons and Hurs look like? You will recognise them as people in your life who want to see you thrive and see you become all you are called to be. They don’t deplete you; they fuel you. They respect you, are loyal to you and are trustworthy. They will be honest with you but will not judge you. They will love you unconditionally. The bottom line is, we cannot be prideful, thinking we don’t need help when we go through challenging seasons. In fact, as I have already said, the most mature thing we can do is confide in our Aarons and Hurs. Moses knew he could trust in Aaron and Hur. He knew that they would be the ones to stay by his side until the battle was conquered. Aaron and Hur took an arm each. Both of them played a specific role in helping Moses, each with their own ability.
Choose wisely your Aarons and Hurs and confide in them so you can again become whole and set free.
Excerpt from my book – ‘Out of Control’ available at all online bookstores worldwide.